funneeb:

In order to make a relationship last, you really have to flow with a person as they change. Give them space. My friend always told me about his grandfather who was with his wife for 60 years before she passed. His grandfather said that through all that time, his wife changed so much it felt like he had been with 8 different people by the end. But he said the secret to making it last was that through all those changes, he never suffocated his wife with his own idea of who he expected her to be. Rather he loved, fully, every new woman she became.

(via afrorevolution)

silver-tongues-blog:

katatles-the-fish:

trauma-suggestion:

lapvslazuli:

silvernis:

samwellhaus:

knightofthestars:

so hey who else was taught as a kid that “”””wanting attention”””” in any way was wrong and shameful and has grown up unable ask for help or support even in great distress/suffering

Parent: why do you never come to me for help

(two days later)

Me: I need help with something

Parent: CAN’T YOU SEE I’M BUSY WHY CAN’T YOU DO ANYTHING BY YOURSELF GOD YOU’RE SO-

Me: never mind

And don’t forget the You Can Tell Me Anything (Except Things I Don’t Want to Hear)™.

Bonus round of You Can Tell Me Anything (But If I Don’t Like It You’re In Big Trouble Even If You’re Asking For Help)

I’m Always Here For You! (Until You Upset Me In Any Way)™.

I’m lucky to have such a well behaved kid! (Until you make one tiny slip up and I yell at you for being dysfunctional)™

i’ll help you if you ask (unless its something that i consider easy in which case i’ll make you feel bad and think youre a dumbass for not knowing it even though its something i never taught you)

(via stayunderthe-influence)

apersnicketylemon:

apersnicketylemon:

Pedophilia is bad should not be a radical statement.

No really, please reblog this if you can, because this site in general, but fandom spaces especially bad for this, to the point where people are genuinely afraid of harassment they may face for saying ‘Pedophilia is a bad thing and you probably should not encourage it’ or for calling it what it is. Fandom spaces are also especially bad for screaming about how it’s ‘just fiction’ when we know damn well that fiction impacts reality.

(via thinkinginsidemyroom)